Long Week, Long Post

Its been a good week, a long week — but a good one. Today has been particularly long and I’ve had time to think and type …

[about 10:00 pm MST somewhere between Denver and Seattle]
I write this sitting on a plane headed to Seattle. While I love Seattle, I don’t live in Seattle. I live in Spokane, Spokane is 500 miles from Seattle. I started out in Cleveland, but due to winds in Chicago, my flight to Denver was delayed. I was assured on board the late plane that our connecting crew had been informed that we were coming and would do their best to hold our seats. I ran from gate 51 to gate 19 to be told that even though the plane had not left yet, it was completely full, as they had given my seat to a standby passenger. Said the attendant “We didn’t think you would make it.” I was directed to another flight leaving for Spokane an hour later, but quickly discovered it was on mechanical hold. After waiting the hour and then some, we were told that plane was grounded indefinitely, but (good news) another plane would be landing in ten minutes that would be re-routed to Spokane. Unfortunately, it turns out the new “smaller” jet did not have room for me. I was told there were no available flights in the morning, but they could get me on a flight to Seattle, leaving from gate 45 in five minutes. I ran for the second time nearly the length of the airport and boarded this plane. I’m anxious to know how this story will end, in the meantime …

I’m exhausted. I am all together very happy, but I am also physically and emotionally spent. The struggle for balance is never-ending. I have to pinch myself to think that I get to work in this industry and yet I’m tired of working so hard. There is so much I dream of doing to grow and share the idea of lifestyle scrapbooking — so many exciting things coming together for the future of BPS — which is a dream in itself. By far your support, enthusiasm and feedback is positive. But when I’m stretching myself and trying to do more than I should, comments like the one we received today really hurt. Someone, who will remain anonymous wrote to tell us that we (BPS) are greedy and deceiving. Now, as editor of Simple Scrapbooks I learned long ago that you cannot make everyone happy. I’ve become quite thick-skinned, but mean-spirited comments like this have no place in scrapbooking. I can completely understand that some classes will not meet some students expectations, and we strive to resolve such issues in a spirit of true customer service. (This person, by the way will be receiving some happy mail from me, because I have to assume she really needs something to help her feel happy.)
I need everyone to know that I am NOT greedy or deceiving. Nor is anyone at either SS or BPS greedy or deceiving. Before I left last Friday morning for SS meetings, National Scrapbook Day and a surprise 40th birthday weekend for my sweet husband, I stayed up to finish the description for my recently posted Library of Memories class, so you wouldn’t have to wait any longer. I returned from the wonderful land of no internet connection to discover there are lots of questions around the details of my class, and in my absense, Paula has tried to address some of these questions. I am also (from another comment) NOT secretive or in this venture to make money. We (BPS partnership) have so far, reinvested every dime into improving our site and our service. We are 100% committed to creating a community of learning, where expertise, instruction and inspiration are as valued as fun projects and free product. I absolutely want people to know what this course is about — in fact, I have completed the syllabus for this 12-week course (which was intended to be part of week one) and will be linking it to my class description. If you read through this syllabus and feel the $85 class fee is not justified then this class is not for you. And that is OK. If you are already organized, using my system or any other system, you don’t need to take this class. This class is designed to help someone who feels paralyzed by piles of pictures customize, step-by-step my approach of photo and layout storage to to their individual life and scrapbooking. I am, most of the time, swimming in a scene of creative chaos — but I have developed and proven over six years a system that works, a system that makes me very happy and gives me the freedom to focus on the amazing opportunity of telling my family’s story without feeling overwhelmed or behind. If that is a feeling you’d like to have — and you know you want personal attention getting there, then this class is for you!

[now back to my story - about 2:01 from the RedLion hotel at SeaTac airport]
I checked in with an agent after landing in Seattle, and was given a hotel and breakfast voucher and a seat on an 8:15 flight to Spokane. You know what? It pays to be nice. In fact, its important to be nice. Sometimes wind and weather and other things outside our control happen, it doesn’t do any good to fuss and whine about circumstances you can’t change. I’m not saying you can’t be upset — I cried my eyes out on the plane — I am saying people matter. People who generally work hard to make things right — whether they are an airline gate agent or the real person with real feelings answering email.

Tired_stacy

Remember this: It’s nice to be important, but it’s important to be NICE.
I’m going to bed. I’m not at home. I have only been at home one day in a week — I miss my children terribly, but I have a warm bed to sleep in and that is something to be happy about.

Comments

  1. Hi Stacy
    I’m so sorry to read this… You are NOT greedy or deceiving… I totally agree with this…
    Please, don’t worry about that… WE know what kind of BEAUTIFUL person you are!!!
    My prayers are with you… I hope you feel BETTER and RESTED soon…
    Love you
    Emine

  2. I agree that you are not greedy nor deceitful! I cannot believe the audacity of someone to act so sanctimonious as to think you are a money making machine. Anyone who has read your book or any of your posts would be able to tell the passion you have for scrapbooking and your desire to share than passion with others.
    Shame on them. It truly IS their loss.
    “Blessed are those who are meek for they shall inherit the earth.”
    Stacy you rock girlfriend.

  3. Stacy, Stacy
    As my Mommy always said don’t bring yourself down to others levels and the sweaky wheel always gets the oil.
    It stinks that when you are so passionate about something and are diving your heart, soul and every waking thought into something someone has negative comments and they are REALLY stinking loud. Thayt is because all the GOOD, AWESOME, TERRIFIC, YOU WONDERFUL comments either don’t get expressed or for some twisted reason are quiet.
    Well I think anyone that sees what you do and have 4 children is crazy to have any negative comments. I feel that you , like me and my photography business never think about money. Alot of people couldn’t understand that but when you are passionate about something you DON;T do it for the money. Really you would rather be with your children then have all the money but your passion is so strong it takes you over.
    So from one passionate person to another you are – GOOD, AWESOME, TERRIFIC AND WONDERFUL and making some unbelievable strides for a high cost and it has nothing to do with the green stuff!!!

  4. Soon-to-be Organized Scrapbooker says:

    While the $85 is more than my monthly scrapbooking budget, I never even considered not taking this class. To me, this is what you are all about — helping people overcome the obstacles (organizational and creative) that hinder us from creating simple yet meaningful pages to record our lives. I’ve been reading your blog for a few months, devoured your book, and love SS magazine. I am so excited about the prospect of implementing some of your tried and true methods for getting and staying organized. I’ve been so overwhelmed with the number of photos I have just sitting in boxes that I have been paralyzed and haven’t even begun to scrapbook anything other than mini-books for special occasions (which I also love!) I am sure there are a lot of other people in the same boat, and this class will be priceless for us. Please don’t let a few people’s pessimistic attitude distract you from the MANY people you are helping, encouraging and inspiring every day.

  5. Stacy,
    My husband & I run a small business and we encounter opinions about our fees on a regular basis. What seems to be difficult for some folks to understand is that, whether you love your work or not, you still deserve to earn an honest wage for it.
    What you do is not just the hours we watch you doing it; it’s all the other hours of preparation, of planning, of research and setting up and testing and re-doing. I would guess that, for every hour you spend teaching (or posting class work for BPS), you spend 10-15 hours behind the scenes. And, if all those hours were truly accounted for, you would be seriously underpaid.
    I wholeheartedly agree with the women who posted before me – you are a beautiful, generous soul who is acting from a place of passion and love. When you live with your heart wide open, it’s easier for people to injure it. And you, dear lady, are just one big wide open heart.
    What you need, more than anything, is to be hugged to pieces by all your men, a good long, slow, run and a brownie.
    Peace and blessings. Don’t ever forget the number of people to whom you are a gift.

  6. 2 more thoughts
    you are running your own race
    you are not here to make other people happy
    be what and who God made you to be

  7. Stacy,
    What an inspiration you are…. I applaud you for your outlook and insight into how to treat people…it does pay to be nice even to *ugliest* of people….they are definitely missing something in their lives and are expressing their dissatisfaction with their own life in *ugly* ways……kudos to you girlfriend!!!!
    I don’t know you, but I’m a faithful reader of yours and SS and I’ve taken several classes through BPS and I’ve read your blog for quite some time now and how anyone could say or imply that you are greedy or decietful is so out of the loop….you are so the opposite…and it shows in your love for family, genuine concern for people and wanting the very best for your family, SS, and BPS…..you keep doing what your doing…just know that you will not be able to please everyone no matter how hard you try…. there will always be those who will find that little something to complain about….negative people…sad isn’t it?
    Now, you go home and get some rest and totally enjoy your family and don’t let this person steal your joy! I’m looking forward to your new class!
    Hugs,
    Joni

  8. Ginger Roberts says:

    WE love you Stacy—NO MATTER WHAT! You are one of the nicest, hard-working, beautiful persons that I know. I know that several will agree with me when I saw that we will be right here with you through thick and thin.
    May Heavenly Father bless you and your family in everything that you stand in need of.
    Keep your chin up!
    Love ya,
    Ginger

  9. Tracy Schmitt says:

    Hey Stacy- I had a week very similar to you–busy, good overall, husband out of town and three sick kids who missed a large percentage of the school week. After working many hours putting together an elementary school yearbook, a parent called complaining (very rudely) that her son didn’t get his but her daughter did and I had to take care of that (the teacher had handed them out earlier than the rest of the school). To make a long story short, the parent made me furious and I was at the short end of a fuse anyways–but I tried to be nice and not let it hurt my feelings (tried is the key word). Like you said and I said at that point, it was more important to handle it with grace and kindness and realize that she was the one with the problem.
    You do a great job and I hope you are almost home with your kids now!Happy Mother’s Day!
    Tracy Schmitt

  10. What???
    As my grandma always said, pishtosh. : ) You can’t even imagine the positive impact you’ve had on so many lives—here’s a hint—it’s more than you even know. : )

  11. susan stewart says:

    Stacy- I was horrified when I heard the comments that woman made. In my life it seems like those kinds of things always happen when I am tired and least able to “bounce back” from them. I want to echo what everyone else has said. I am a new BPSer, am taking a course and love it, and am finding everything about you, your site, and your approach to this wonderful hobby inspiring. To the woman who was so spiteful….shame on you! It’s ok to let someone know if you have a genuine gripe, but name calling doesn’t accomplish anything except to spread bad feelings and anger. Take care of yourself. Sounds like you need a long soak in the tub, several brownies, and a family hug! I appreciate all your work and sacrifices to share your scrapbooking approach with us. Thank you for being who you are!
    Susan

  12. Lisa McParland says:

    As someone who also travels for a living, I completely understand what you went through yesterday. It’s hard to go through that kind of day no matter what, but to have it happen on a Friday is especially hard. Kudos to you for going through all of that and still knowing that one of the most important things in life is to BE NICE to other people. I see people getting so upset and so nasty about situations that are completely out of the airlines control. Do we like to be delayed or miss our flight? No. Is it the fault of the ticket agent behind the counter? Of course not…but she/he is usually the one on the receiving end of the traveler with the bad attitude.
    About the comment about BPS, just to let you know, I LOVE BPS! It is my NEW FAVORITE ONLINE SIGHT! I check it everyday to see what new classes have been added that I might want to take. I just finished Renee’s Digital Class, and let me tell you, it was BY FAR THE BEST SCRAPBOOK CLASS I HAVE EVER TAKEN!!!!! She is an amazing teacher, unbelievably talented and unbelievably intelligent. I hope more than anything that she offers Doing it Digi Part 2. I will be the first to sign up. I just found this signt when I did a Google search for Digital Scrapbook because I wanted to learn how to do this. I found your sight and am so happy. I wish I had known about it earlier because there are several classes I missed that I would have loved to take (yours for one.) Now I’m signed up for Donna’s June class, and I can’t wait! Thank you, thank you, thank you for creating such a wonderful idea! I LOVE IT!!!!

  13. Tiffany Nash says:

    Here is one more vote of support from this working mom. You are an amazing person! You share so much of your life with us, the scrapbooking community and I thank you for it. You are one of my role models. I can honestly say you have changed my life. I have a feeling of accomplishment from my scapbooking efforts and my family has these great meaningful tributes. Your devotion to your family, your business and your creativity are awe inspiring and I am SO EXCITED to be taking another one of your BPS classes. Please tell Geof and the boys that we thank them for sharing you with us and happy 40th birthday to Geof.

  14. Hi
    I just signed up for your class and am looking forward to taking it. I’ve read your book and have already started changing my scrapbooks around.
    As a high school teacher, I’ve learned you can’t please everyone all the time so just do what you can! :)

  15. Stacy,
    You are one of the most beautiful, caring and loving woman that I know. Your love for life, family and your Heavenly Father shine through in all you do.
    I loved your book, love SS, love the work you do for BPS and have been reading your blog for quite some time. There is something about your spirit that just so uplifting.
    I know that it’s difficult to not take words that are so harsh and mean spirited and to let them roll off your shoulders when it involoves something you have such passion about. Something you love and want to share with all that you know in the world of scrapbooking.
    I know that a lot of work goes into planning. There is a lot of “behind the scenes” stuff people don’t see. It comes from being a teacher. I know. I’m a teacher.
    Thank you for all that you do.
    I wish there was more that I could do. I’m sending you warm sunshine from Florida…may it shine brightly on your Mother’s Day weekend.
    Melissa

  16. You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time but you can’t please all of the people all of the time. I never understand consumers that try to arbritarily demand to set the price of a commodity. Keep your head up and know that not everyone agrees. YOU are worth every penny!
    I had no idea this was all going on and I had emailed Paula about the class. My experience and impression of all of you is SO far at the other end of the spectrum.
    Now, about you…I got your book last week and while I was devouring it, I read a few excerpts to my Mother. She knows nothing about you and said, “She sounds like an eternal optimist”. I’ll have to say I just like to read anything by you not only to help my scrapbooking efforts but simply to be a better person.
    Nothing worthwhile is ever easy…you’re in my prayers.

  17. I’m glad to hear you are on your way home to be with your family!! Happy Mother’s Day Stacy!!!
    My thoughts……I’ve talked with people that have taken some classes here and that have sometimes been disappointed. I then remind them that the cost of the class isn’t about ‘getting’ FREE stuff. It is about learning something about yourself in the process of the class. Learning things about ourselves can be scary if we aren’t prepared for it!! I know the classes are about learning techniques or doing differant projects.
    For me it boils down to Re-discovering who I am in what I do! Each teacher has brought something to my life and has left me changed. Do I cry? You bet, it may seem silly to some BUT in all the years I have been scrapbooking I have only been REALLY proud of myself a few times!!!! These classes have forced me to look at myself and why I do what I do.
    So here is to BPS! Thank-you from my heart! You are all teaching me to TRUELY LOVE myself again and for that I am eternally greatful!!
    Juel

  18. Betsy Cruickshank says:

    STACY-WE LOVE YOU!!!! You have inspired more people than you will ever know. I have every single one of your books and I am looking forward to taking the new class (already signed up). No matter what my expectations are I will take something away from the class-I have found that classes (like life) are what you make them and I will enjoy every minute that I am able to devote to the class. You are talented, organized, BEAUTIFUL, completely inspiring and wonderful-even with the bad comments I want to be you when I grow up!

  19. Wow, I’m shocked to think that ANYONE would ever think anything but the best of you, Stacy! It’s so hard to believe. I hope by now you are home and enjoying your Mother’s Day Eve with your beautiful family. Thank you for all you do, the encouragement you give, your devotion to helping others, your passion for creativity, and your grace under pressure. You are an amazing woman and an example to all of us.
    Gina

  20. I just finished your new book…I loved it….I am still carrying it around with me! I want to take this class, but I’m afraid I need even more help than this class can offer…..like maybe you to come to my house in person and help me (I am SOOOOO behind)! Thanks for all you do for us and please keep it up.

  21. I just wanted to reinforce you in your feelings. I have visited BPS since the beginning, taken two classes that I felt were for me, and bought your book. I have never, ever, felt that you were greedy.
    I also wanted to tell you that it’s so true you need to be nice, and that I think it’s awesome that more and more people (at least here in Sweden) are getting their eyes opened about that. A cancer professor here has even written a book about the subject (after he wrote a book on his faith – he is an awesome man), and though I have not read it, people have started to change the way they behave after having been made consious about this. So, I just wanted to tell you you are absolutely right. :)

  22. Suzanne Balvanz says:

    oh Stacy,
    I am sending you a BIG virtual hug. Whoever made those hateful comments has bigger issues that they will admit…ANYONE who has ever seen your site and your work KNOWS that you’re one of the kindest and coolest women in scrapbooking. I am glad that you are thick-skinned.
    And fear not, your kindness shows. and you’re right. It IS important to be nice.
    {{hugs}}
    Suzanne
    http://suzannebalvanz.blogspot.com/

  23. Oh, Stacy, I’m so sorry you’ve had a hard time getting home and that you’re hearing mean-spirited comments about BPS. As others have already commented, you represent the OPPOSITE of greediness & secrecy! You have been so incredibly generous to share your time, energy and ideas with us who have benefited more than you’ll know. You really are an inspiration! And the person who found you secretive? That is comical for me to hear when I consider how much you open up yourself in your books, blog, magazine, BPS (all of which I’ve loved!)
    Please try to put those negative comments in a context that allows you not to be bothered by them. I’ve had to develop a thick skin at times in my work, and it comes in handy quite often! Hopefully, you won’t give this a second thought and you can now enjoy your weekend with your family.

  24. Stacy,
    I am really upset by the negative comments you received. I have been so inspired by you and your work and thankful for BPS. Reading your book completely changed my perspective on scrapbooking. I don’t feel stressed about something I love so much because my eyes have been opened.
    I appreciate being able to take online classes. With my job and commute and obligations at home, I don’t have enough time to take classes at a store. I love being able to do it on my own time at my own pace. I think the price is a bargain for the quality and thoughtfulness of the classes.
    Yes people are entitled to their opinions, but we don’t have to let their negativity affect us.
    Keep your head up and keep doing what you so obviously love doing.
    Have a great and relaxing Mothers Day. You deserve it!
    Michelle

  25. Stacy,
    So sorry to hear you’ve had a crappy week. I join you in having a crappy week, but we can get through this. You cannot please everyone, and that going to be a constant in life. I do not think it’s necessary for you to justify the cost of your classes, but hopefully it will pacify the doubters. Scrapbooking, by no means, is a cheap hobby. But the results from scrapbooking are priceless! Even better than a tear jerking Mastercard commercial.
    Hope you are home/will be home soon and are able to snuggle with your family.
    Hugs, Jennie

  26. Stacy,
    You are wonderful!!! Don’t let other people get you down.
    As I sit here typing this, you are on your way to visit us in Pullman. We are soooo excited to have you at the store. We will be sure to put a smile on your face!!! No more bad day for you!

  27. Laura Stroebel says:

    Stacy,
    You are a true inspiration to many many people. My hats off to all three of you at BPS. It has been so fun to take the classes. I look forward to Thursdays when I get to hear of a new project. I hope you are able to have a Wonderful Mothers Day.
    Laura

  28. Hi Stacy,
    I’m completely horrified to learn about the comments that you have received.
    I want to tell you something — well a few things, really.
    First, I send you major props and much love. You are doing wonderful things and you are making a difference in the lives of many people. This matters.
    Second, I came to your blog and BPS through the virtual back door that is the Internet. After reading you for a while, I took a look at the BPS site and became interested in Renee Pearson’s class. I signed up for that class and WOW — it was one of those life altering things. Why? Well, when you are an artist by profession it is pretty easy to get away from making the art that your spirit needs. Renee’s class brought me back to myself. It was the first time that I have made any work that was just for ME since starting my business, and it brought me to an epiphany of sorts. So thank you. Thanks to YOU, to Renee, and to whatever lead you, Stacy, to this concept. I feel grateful and renewed.
    In business to make money??? What a shocking concept here in America!! Well I most certainly hope that you ARE in business to make money, among other things. As a female business owner, I think I an say that a lot of woman-owned businesses fail because we confuse business with charity. There is ample time and place for both.
    I hope that you make it home safely to your wonderful family, that you sincerley DO have a thick skin and will not let the negative comments bother you too much, and that you have a wonderful Mother’s Day! And please know that you have made a big difference in the life of a woman you do not know, who lives three thousand miles from you. I thank you for that. And I send you a big Detroit-style hug!

  29. Stacy,
    I just want you to know that I am REALLY excited to start your new class! I need to get my scrapbooking under control, and I know this class will help me to do that. I have absolutely loved other BPS classes I have taken so far! I know it is hard not to let things people say get to you. Just know that there are more people out here that appreciate what you do and can’t wait to be inspired by you. You are an excellent teacher and scrapbooking innovator.
    When you get home, just soak up the love from your family and relax. I know what it is like when you have airport delays and all you want to do is see your family’s smiling faces.
    I am thinking of you and praying for you.
    Take care,
    Dani

  30. For me BPS has been responsible for 2 things that no one else has been able to achieve:
    1. Beth Proudfoot got me to hand journal!!! No biggie you think, but I had never, ever written in a scrapbook and hated my handwriting. Guess what, the sky did not fall in LOL
    2. Renee Pearson helped me make a digital layout…that looks totally professional and damn cool. Why is this so big, well because I had NO DIGI SKILLS AT ALL!!
    I know you will always get complainers and they are the ones that seem to stand out, especially when the critisim is delivered as an assalt on your integrity, but trust me…I bet there are way more scrappers like me who have loved their classes, have learnt, experimented, gone out side the box, and their comfort zone, and LOVED IT!
    BPS Rocks!

  31. Stacy-
    You know how I feel about you…..I just want to send BIG HUGs my friend…BIG hugs!

  32. You poor thing! But how amazing you are to realize in the thick of it that you must ‘be nice.”
    While reading your post,I could only think that it just wasn’t meant for you to fly home that evening. Hopes to you for a wonderful Mothers Day. As far as the mean comments from the emailer. Phooie. There’s always someone who can’t stand success or happiness. They must be so sad.

  33. Stacy – I have met you a few times at various CKU’s and such and even had dinner with you – kinda (we were at the same restuarant and just sort of congragated together) – at CKU-Teachers about 2 years ago (we met those awsome girls from South Africa!) – anyway – my first impression of you was dead on. You are a genuine person, and driven by an important message! You care about people and what they have to say and give them your undivided attention when engaging in conversation. That is rare and that is what I know of you. You will always be that person to me, the one who listened to what I had to say and valued my personal opinion. Giving another person credibility and showing them they have value is priceless. You are inspiring and what you have to share and teach is so important to bettering our lives and our self worth.
    I have taken a class from BPS and in my opinion – the whole concept is brilliant. Learning things in a classroom is a great thing – the sharing and discovery together is a fun and valuable lesson, but discovering a little bit more about yourself, your abilities, and what makes you, you – is what you can gain from these classes. In our own, quiet way (well, however quiet it can be with kids running around!) the likelyhood of that “ah ha” moment is greater and the self discovery with a little direction from the Big Picture is great. One day, I would love to be on the teaching end – reaching out and sharing what is so important and special about this little thing we call scrapbooking. Thanks for that!
    joey whittaker -http://joeywhid.blogspot.com/

  34. Stacy,
    Know that LOTS of women out there (tons and tons of us!) really respect and love what you do. Even more, we love WHY you do it and the place in you that it comes from.
    Your work provides a place for play, joy, and inspiration for thousands of people all over the country and even all over the world — you should take great pride in that and realize that you have a special gift for happiness and (in the immortal words of Oprah) you are USING YOUR LIFE well in sharing it with others.
    And exactly what’s wrong with a *business* trying to make money, anyway? How does the Mean Emailer pay for her groceries, one wonders? ;)
    Biggest hugs,
    Jill
    (PS: You already have my $85. Game on and wahoo!)

  35. Hi there!
    I love coming here and reading your blog. I love blog reading all around. However, I’m bad at posting on them but felt the need to comment here.
    It’s sad that there are so many people in this world who are mean spirited. I’ve read about your class on Twopeas and I see some of the frustration. I think there are many people out there who think they should recieve things for practically nothing. If they’d just sit down and think of the time and expense of running things then maybe they’d look at it differently. It’s easy to say mean things behind this computer screen but we need to realize there are people on the other end who are real and have feelings! I’m sorry you had to recieve this email but remember it takes all kinds to make the world go around and you’re a good person with a fabulous faith that will take you down a wonderful path and those with a mean streak will have to follow their own path.
    Sometimes I think it’s jealousy talking and that’s sad because we all have the ability to achieve anything if we’d just try. Keep up the great job you are doing and thanks so much for making these online classes available for those of us not as fortunate to have great classes locally to take. I’ve taken Donnas class from the beginning and I’m loving it but because of time constraints with running a daycare for special needs children I don’t have enough time in the week to take on another class. I love your book and when this year is up I look forward to taking some different classes from your team.
    Also, a special thanks for helping me relieve some of the stress of my day by having this fun blog to come and read and helping me forget the turmoil in my rather stressful days at work!
    Have a GREAT Mothers Day and Thanks for being you!!!!!
    :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)
    Robin

  36. Stacy,
    Know that, without a doubt, BPS has made a difference in many lives…even old time scrappers!! You are an amazing woman and it makes me very humble to even be able to take a class or workshop offered by you and those that you consider great in the scrapping industry.
    ‘Chin up young person’! All will be well and blessings will abound!
    Stacy in Tucson

  37. Sorry…that last post didn’t have the correct blog or email info. Hang in there beautiful one!!
    Stacy in Tucson

  38. Hi Stacy
    I’m sorry you’re not at home with your kids right now, and that you’ve received a horrible email. I am definitely planning on taking your class and am saving madly to do so. Living here in South Africa, it means we need to convert the $85 into Rands and that means multiplying it by around 6, but this is not going to put me off. I enjoyed meeting you at the Scrapbooking Exhibition in JHB last year and thoroughly enjoyed your Colourful you and UR 2bCre8tive classes on BPS. I’m not going to miss this one. Please keep on smiling and being happy. You are truly an inspiration to me and I love reading your blog and get very upset hearing about ‘unhappy’ emails and comments. I can’t wait to start your next class.
    Love
    Jacqui

  39. Darling Stacy,
    My heart is just breaking for you! And that picture about brought me to tears!
    *mean people suck*
    I’ve been waiting and waiting (not so patiently – LOL!) for your class to be posted ever since you were just thinking about offering it. When I got the e-mail in my inbox that it was open for registration, I rushed over to BPS, credit card in hand and signed right up. I can’t wait for it to get started and am SO excited!
    Never let anyone get you down! You are a truly AWESOME, WONDERFUL and GENUINE woman! And you know what? I totally LOVE you!!!
    (((HUGS)))
    Christyne

  40. Just a quick note to tell you how inspirational I think you and so many others involved with the website and mag are!
    When my hubby and I opened our non-scrapbook related business, I got a great piece of advice: 99% of the people we would deal with are wonderful. Don’t let that other 1% ruin you for everyone else. Sounds like you have this piece of advice down in spades!
    Thanks for sharing your life with all of the rest of us.
    Cheers,
    Katie

  41. I was going to say something totally off the subject of your post, not having read the entire thing mind you…Now that I have, I SO feel for you. There are jealous, mean spirited, down right unhappy people every where. You can’t make them happy no matter what you do. Don’t let it get to you. Just keep doing what you do. It works, and yo know it. Keep you chin up and your heart happy. Those who are unhappy will eventually move on to “pick” on someone or something else. From personal experience, you are wonderful and not any of those things that were mentioned. If youget a chance take a look at this.
    http://jami.typepad.com/life_is_what_you_make_itm/2006/04/just_had_to_rep.html
    It always makes me feel better after I read it and it reminds me that I am the one who controls my life and the things that happen. Hope you have a wonderful weekend!

  42. Jennifer Robinson says:

    Stacy,
    I can’t even begin to tell you how you have changed my life! I started to get into scrapbooking several years ago but it just didn’t happen. I always thought someday. A few months ago I started homeschooling my 13 yr old son and while he was doing his independant work, I started looking around on the internet. I found your site and well, I have read and am reading everything Simple Scrapbook Magazine and BPS has to offer. I read your book and a life changing light went on! It was exactly what I have been searching for. How “I” would want to do it. I finally got it! I have signed up for Donna’s classes(love it!) and I absolutely can’t wait to take yours! (yep, already signed up!) Cathy Z.’s books are wonderful! Between her, Donna, and you, I feel so empowered. I actually feel like you guys are family now and I was beginning to get worried about you. Glad you are safe and on your way home!
    Have a Great Mother’s Day!
    I don’t understand some people, I don’t think they deserve to be part of your world. Thanks for being you and being so wonderful!
    Jennifer

  43. LOVE your Big Picture book, LOVE the entire concept behind the BP website, LOVE the spirit of what you are trying to accomplish. You are a pioneer and an inspiration. I think all moms share your struggle of balance between family and the things your heart is calling you to achieve – I know I do! It is our nature as women to want to give all we’ve got, and we sometimes forget to replenish. That’s when we leave ourselves most vulnerable to those mean, hurtful people who fill themselves up by dragging others down. Know that the vast majority of people do not share the opinions of those two emailers. I see your Library of Memories class as another step toward realizing a sense of balance in my life. I will be in class on 6/8 with my listening ears on and my #2 pencil sharpened. Can’t wait! :) –Tamara

  44. Stacy:
    I completely agree with all of the nice comments. You are doing an incredible thing. Something that so many people (including myself) are benefitting from. Keep up the great work!!:) We know you are NOT greedy or deceiving. I am so looking forward to the library of memories class. I understand that it takes time to put something like this together…I appreciate you!!:)
    Noelle

  45. Hi, Stacy-
    I have been one of your biggest fans for years, and will continue to be one. I love your approach to scrapping and your approach to life. I am grateful every day that there is someone out there that seemingly peeked inside my head and figured out how to help me make scrapping fun again! You are a great blessing to me and your inspiration has helped me in more ways than you know. Even in my job as a parent coach, I find myself returning to many of your concepts. How cool is that??? That there is a major crossover between losing the guilt and having more fun in scrapping AND in parenting? :) I thank you, and my clients thank you. May you get the rest you need to go on to do this important mission.
    Sincerely,
    Karen

  46. virtual hugs for you, my friend.
    {{stacy}}
    and thanks for giving people like me an opportunity to teach and share with so many others.
    happy mothers day!
    r.

  47. Lisa Cole says:

    Stacy, I just love your attitude in life – you make me a happier person reading how you handle life’s situations such as the comments about BPS (which I love, by the way) and your flights. Cheers to you for being a champion of niceness :) Oh, and by the way, Seattle is really only about 280 miles away… we drive it all the time! LOL! (But 500 sounded a lot better in your story :))

  48. stacy,
    as i’ve said before, you are one classy chick. i would have broken down after the second plane. i think that email would have done me in… and i know what you’re saying about the money… having just started up my own small business, it’s gonna be an awful long time before i see any money in mine. it’s just about wanting to do what you love. it hurts when someone accuses you of something like that, especially when they’re waaay off base.
    you know what? you really are an example to me of faith, hope & charity. you go, girl.
    love,
    janna

  49. it always hurts when someone is mean, even if you do have a thick skin and understand that you cant please everyone. to genuinely nice people, it is always a shock that someone COULD be mean. its not about what they say its that they could even say it.
    im so sorry you had a long day. i hope this one is better.

  50. Eileen Van Dyke says:

    Stacy-
    People can be so mean some times – and so nice as shown in the emails above. I ran a small business for three years and even though no one ever said anything so mean about my prices, they also never knew what a great deal they were getting. When you have a small business it takes so much more time than anyone can ever guess. I’m sure you are contantly brainstorming and always thinking about how to make BPS and SS better so that we can become better scrappers. And I could not believe it when you yourself answered an email I sent about a question I had on a class! I mean WOW!
    Also, when you break it down – your class is 12 weeks – right? That comes out to $7.08 a class – now I KNOW that does not cover your time! And where else can you get anything great for $7.08 (well maybe the $1 bin at Target LOL).
    Please don’t let the rude comment get you down – you are doing great things and we are so grateful for you and your staff and everything you do so we can have fun at a wonderful hobby.
    Happy Mother’s Day – you deserve it!
    Eileen

  51. It’s so sad to see you altogether NOT too happy. You’ll feel better soon. You’re emotionally and physically exhausted and what would not have upset you otherwise did you in. You know deep down in your heart that those hateful words are not true. Let them go. Smile.

  52. Lara Cousins says:

    Hi Stacy, I was so sad for you reading these comments. I had the privilege of meeting you at CKU T-Austin in 2004 and again here in SA in 2005. Your class had me in tears (maybe I’ll get to tell you that story sometime). Just want you to know that I think you have a heart of gold. I appreciate all you share with us scrapbookers.
    Look after your heart.Lara

  53. Leslie Pugh says:

    I am so sorry to hear that anyone would think that of you or of BPS. I feel so fortunate to have met you in real life and know this is absolutely not true. Thank you for all you do to inspire the scrapbook world. Your books, Simple Scrapbooks and The Big Picture have done so much for my view of scrapbooking and even life in general. Just keep plugging along and know that most of us out there support you and think you rock!

  54. Mean people suck. And you are not mean people!!! It’s unfair that one or two unhappy people can take the attention and focus off all the happiness of others and make you feel like you need to justify what you do and how you do it. You have done great things, Stacy, and you will continue to do great things with class, style and honor.
    I hope you’re home and happy now and getting lots of hugs and kisses from all your boys.

  55. Just wanted to add my support – hang in there, you are so right it IS incredibly important to be nice, it can make such a difference to people, – you know, my sister once challenged someone gently on their attitude towards some people, and he actually shouted “fine, BE nice all your life!!” as if it was a terrible thing – what a compliment! Keep doing what you do.

  56. Hey lady – I love you and I wanted to let you know that my Mom signed up for your class and she is SO excited. She loves you too.

  57. You are so beautiful inside and out. Over and over in reading your thoughts and words I am reminded why I admire you so much. It started with your art but quickly became your insight and wisdom.
    Hugs!
    Tammy

  58. Susan C says:

    Stacy, even though I’ve never met you and I haven’t taken any classes at BPS yet I feel as though I know you – that you are a friend. I follow your blog, read SS, and I love your attitude and openness. Don’t let a comment or two upset you. There are always some willing to throw stones. Just look at all the great supportive comments here to see the difference you are making in people’s lives. Thank you for all you do.

  59. {{{{{ Stacey }}}}}
    “Because Nice Matters” This is a wooden sign I have hanging in my entry, so we see it as we come in and out of our home to remind us…thank you for reminding me again, in a a bigger and better way…by your example.
    I hope you have a wonderful beautiful Mothers Day with those that really matter…your family… and I can’t wait to take your class!!
    hugs,
    Julie in NE Ohio

  60. Hang in there. Love BPS, loved your creativity class. In the interest of being nice, I will leave it at that.
    Tough skin or not, when we are drained it is hard to consider the source and move on.
    As I heard the Divine Miz Donna D. say yesterday – You are perfect just the way you create.
    Hang in there. Don’t forget that you also deserve to be well compensated for what you do. That isn’t greedy, either. That is believing that you deserve it. I think you do.

  61. Boy…wwhat a day you have had and you are still positive…that is what it is about, That is why I admire you. I will remember this post every time I get upset about a little something out of my control or anyone elses for that matter. This post really speaks to mean and I love how real and sincere you are. I think you, BPS and SS are wonderful and they are because who you are and don’t let anyone else ever tell you different.. Keep doing what you do…it matters to me and I am a better person because of it. You insprie me.
    Peace
    Kim Bolyard

  62. Hi Stacy,
    I see that you have so many responses to your post today. You deserve that support! No doubt many are from your friends, holding you up. I think as many will be from people like me who do not know you but want to support you. Because you have GRACE. I am impressed at the postitive tone you can send out when you have been very hurt.
    I have been wondering whether to sign up for your Library class – and I think I will now. Not because of someone being mean and silly, but because with all of this you still focused on what you are about and WHY you want to teach. And the described class is exactly what I need! I have to add that I think the fee is a steal – and the virtual classroom gives we overseas students access to classes that we otherwise could not attend. Great!
    Happy Mothers Day, Arlie

  63. Lorraine D. says:

    Stacy,
    First I have to say that my finger cramped as I held it down to scroll to the bottom of this screen! Feel the love…I just wanted to share with you what I have told my own boys when talking about mean people/mean deeds – they simply don’t have God in their hearts. Somehow this explanation is sufficient and makes the most sense to them. I am all for voicing one’s opinion, but it should be done in a respectful manner or not at all.

  64. Narelle says:

    Hey Stacy, I am about to get on a plane myself – hopefully it will be a smooth ride! Anyway, when I started scrapbooking I thought I would have some lovely albums of memories to share with my family, much to my surprise scrapbooking has become a passion, it has helped me feel more connected, amazing women (and men) have inspired me to become a better person. I live in Australia, and without BPS I would not have access to take classes and be involved with all of the wonderful people that teach, take classes, share their work. I have had the pleasure of attending one CKUA – but that is not something I can do every year – so a big hug and thankyou from me – I am currently signed up for every class – I don’t do all the projects, but just logging in and catching up is worth every cent, and then I can work on the projects when I feel like it. You go girl – you are sincerely NICE! Hugs Narelle

  65. Stacy,
    Peace, friend. Hang in there and remember that you bring inspiration to so many of us! You and the BPS crew are fabulous. Happy Mom’s day to you.

  66. Kristan says:

    Why is it that some people feel that if you put it in email form it is ok to be rude?! I am sure this person wouldn’t do this in person. Sorry you were on the receiving end of rudeness!
    You are fabulous! Stay positive! Don’t let the turkeys get you down..

  67. Stacy, I was so sad when I read your post today. How awful for you. I know this isn’t the first time that you have gotten negaative feedback about BPS, and I just don’t understand what is wrong with people? You do so much and I have taken lots of classes at BPS, enjoyed everyone of them and felt they are all well worth the money. Don’t people realize how much prep-time goes into doing these classes? I just don’t get what the big deal is….if someone thinks a class is too expensive, then DON’T SIGN UP FOR IT! How simple is that! Don’t let it get you down. We love you!

  68. Stacy please don’t let that horrible comment get you down. I know that is difficult to do sometimes. You and the BPS team are doing an amazing job. I can’t even imagine anyone describing you as greedy or deceiving. Your innovation and dedication to the scrapbooking industry has been amazing. You work so so hard and do an amazing job. BPS is fabulous and I can’t wait to take a class. (((Sending hugs your way))) If you ever get stranded in Seattle again you can come stay with me. :)

  69. Pam Cooper says:

    What is wrong with people… you are certainly not greedy or deceitful. You are just trying to share a vision and your scrapbooking expertise with those of us out here with a desire to learn more, become better organized and enjoy this wonderful hobby we all love. Hang in there, keep doing what you do best and continue to be nice… that is what’s important! I can’t wait for your class and am saving my money so I can get registered soon.
    Hope you have a Happy Mother’s Day… you are blessed!
    Warmest regards,
    Pam C.
    Waco TX

  70. Leica Forrest says:

    Hi Stacy,
    I had the PLEASURE of meeting you at the Memories retailer event in Edmonton, Canada a short while ago(I had the “creative” name tag..) anyways, I found your seminar to be absolutely intriguing.You blew me away!!!!! Your talk was an accurate percetion of what begins to happen to people when they are overwhelmed with the amount of photos we have nowadays, and I found all your advice to be hit right on the nose. I have completely changed my “chronological” way of thinking, and now really enjoy scrapbooking whatever I desire. I am loving it. I consider myself definitely advanced in scrapbooking and have taken some of the BPS classes, to which I have enjoyed. What the women who criticized you are not taking into account, is that you are providing a service for us, one we can choose to take or not. You have selected the best teachers that you have met in the industry( ones most of us will never meet) we are paying minimal amounts, in the comfort of our home with no additional cost of gas or childcare to be taught by amazing people. I find that even if the class is basic, there is still tips and suggestions that can be used, and sometimes a different perspective is all we need to give us the little “push” we may need sometimes. I hope that you do not let yourself think about the comments one minute more. It already wasted the time it took you to read it. I would like to send you something I find happy, so email back how to send it to you and a little something happy will come your way.
    Have a GREAT mother’s day Stacy, enjoy your children and hubbie!!

  71. Please know you have many, many fans. *I* am the person you described that your class is designed for. The book is great but I need a little more hand holding. Even my husband was excited when I told him about your class! In his mind no price is too high to bring some order to this chaos.
    Looking forward to additional info about the class and to signing up! (Just had to wait for payday…)

  72. I took 2 of your classes at CKU – Vancouver. You changed my outlook on scrapbooking. I have never enjoyed listening to someone speak as much as I had you. I loved that your husband was in the back gazing so lovingly at you the entire time. You made me laugh, cry and want to create. I love the concept that I am life scrapbooking. Thank you, thank you for what you have done and what you mean to this industry. I think you ROCK! :)

  73. You know how I feel about you…so I am just going to send more {{{hugs}}} your way and wish you the happiest of mother’s days. Much love-Lisa

  74. Stacy…as I sit here in my hotel, reading this…my heart hurts. ((HUGS)). You know how I feel about you. Get home safe, give your kiddos a big hug…and have a wonderful Mother’s day.

  75. Shawna-a green girl! says:

    Stacy,
    You are soooo amazing. We had a great time with you today and it was awesome to see a smile on your face.
    We hope that you had a safe trip home. Put your feet up, have a great mother’s day, and know that so many of us are sending you good mojo!!!
    P.S. Enjoy your power bars!

  76. Wow! I’m really shocked. “Greedy” and “Deceiving” are the LAST words that come to my mind when I think of you and the rest of the people at SS and BPS. I’m stunned how anyone could think that???
    I want to commend you for rising above it and taking the higher ground. It speaks volume about your wonderful character. I realize that the BPS classes aren’t for everyone and not every person will appreciate or have a need for every class. It’s a shame that more people don’t understand that they can offer constructive criticsm or suggestions WITHOUT the need for insults. I think it’s wonderful that you started BPS. There’s such a huge need for something like this. Personally I’ve taken four classes so far and I enjoyed every single one. I’m still on the fence about your upcoming class. I’m still thinking about whether or not this system would work for me. But I know that it will benefit a lot of people and I thank you for your willingness to share your process with us!

  77. Michele says:

    Hi Stacey,
    I just wanted to add to all the other people’s thoughts above. I have taken several of the Big Picture Classes and I have loved every single one of them. Have i completed every single project? NO – but that is OK. As someone above said, the choice is there for people to make and if they don’t like it – then don’t sign up. Whay make it any more harder than that? I think you guys are doing a fantastic job and from an Aussie scrapper – who doesn’t get access to the US gals, it is a unique way to feel connected.
    Keep up the good work – and gee – I hope you make some money – you deserve to. You have had the guts to get out there and give it a go – i wonder if they other person has ever taken a chance. I very much doubt it.
    Looking forward to your class and many more to come on BPS.
    Thanks again,
    Michele

  78. Suzanne Balvanz says:

    HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY, Stacy!!
    and to all moms!

  79. Connie Heitner says:

    Stacy,
    I echo what all the previous posters have said. I know how comments like that can hurt and it puzzles me why some people are like that but just remember who you are and how happy you are and how happy you make others. I met you several years ago and you made me very happy. I still think about that class and the good time I had. Have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

  80. Stacy,
    Some people will say anything to get “Happy Mail”. ;-) As someone who has met you, and heard you speak…you are not at all greedy or deceiving. You love what you do which oozes from every pore of your body when you share this with others. Your trip was an adventure, glad you are home now with your family and HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY!

  81. Meredith says:

    I echo all of the comments of support and tell you that you’re one of my absolute inspirations in this process of scrapbooking. I am currently devouring your book and can’t wait for your new class. You are genuine and authentic, and I love those qualities. Happy Mom’s Day.

  82. It would seem you don’t need another post—there are so many already, but for some crazy reason the one negative response we get is always heard louder than the hundreds of emails that praise.
    So here is another to help balance that out a bit.
    I already posted as soon as I finished your book last month. The whole thing seemed like an enormous act of generosity—because you were sharing not only your ideas, but your life in those layouts. I love the way it was organized, the book itself, and the little surprises along the way. If there was ever a book that seemed “designed with love”, this was it!
    Often when reading about ideas or projects, I think, “That’s nice, but what would I do with it/where would I put it?” I have a huge fear of clutter. Sometimes it is more about the act of making than the “keeping”, but it is still good to look at that question. Your book is the first I’ve seen to even address that question, and so poignantly too!
    Cathy Z’s was my first BPS class, and my first 8×11 and my first layout about myself…so many first.
    I taught high school for several years and I’m afraid you might have to deal with a general under-valuing of teaching in our culture. Product–people get. Teaching–many people don’t get. But don’t let that sway you (not that I think it could!). A new embellishment is fun, but a new perspective, a new concept—that is priceless.
    Thanks for all you do!
    And Happy Mother’s Day too!

  83. Stacy,
    As a fellow instructor, professional designer, and mother, I understand how one negative comment can really hurt your heart. I had the pleasure of hearing your CKU-T presenation, and I am sending you some SPRINKLES! I scrapbook everyday, and TBP has been a true inspiration to me. On this Mother’s Day, I am happy to send praise and prayers to lift you. I live in Colorado, and I wish I could drive to DIA or your hotel and just give you the big hug you deserve and need right now.

  84. Not sure that I can say anything that others have not already said… but I do know that as women we tend to deal with things on an emotional level… had I recieved that email I know I would have been in tears!!! But please know that a few peoples opinion are not those of everyone!! We love what you have chosen to offer us— BPS is Awesome, your book was incredible and the magazine is an all time favorite!! Keep doing what your doing and all us fans will follow!!
    Happy Mothers Day and thanks for the daily inspiration!

  85. Stacy, I appreciate your post. You are so right. And you’ve shown yourself a bigger and better person for remembering to be nice in the face of all your delays and inconveniences. Good for you. As for pleasing all the people all time; aint gonna happen. So don’t sweat the small stuff, right? Some people are just determined to be unhappy and spread that unhappiness all around them. My grandma used to say “she’d be mad if she was hung with a new rope.” Hope you made it home safe and sound and were able to enjoy a happy Mother’s Day with your boys. Keep on doing that thing you do.

  86. Marilyn says:

    Stacy, I am so sorry about all of this. But please know there are many of us who need your class. I am an extremely busy RN who has to work full-time. My husband farms so our living expenses are based on my work. I need you to help me and that is why I am taking this class. Don’t let others discourage you. I get so depressed because I rarely have time to scrapbook and want to get my memories and photos organized.
    So, see, I don’t want you to let others get you down. You have so much to offer to the rest of us.
    Can’t wait for class to begin!
    Marilyn Johnson

  87. Too bad there are some ignorant and unkind people in the world. Don’t let the bad opinion of a very few let you down…let me share this from Kent Keith (often attributed to Mother Teresa) that I often like to read so I can remember this basic truth:
    People are often unreasonable, illogical,
    and self-centered;
    Forgive them anyway.
    If you are kind, People may accuse you
    of selfish, ulterior motives;
    Be kind anyway.
    If you are successful, you will win some
    false friends and some true enemies;
    Succeed anyway.
    If you are honest and frank,
    people may cheat you;
    Be honest and frank anyway.
    What you spend years building, someone
    could destroy overnight.
    Build anyway.
    If you find serenity and happiness,
    they may be jealous;
    Be happy anyway.
    The good you do today,
    people will often forget tomorrow;
    Do good anyway.
    Give the world the best you have,
    and it may never be enough;
    Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
    You see, in the final analysis,
    it is between you and God;
    It was never between you and them anyway.

  88. Oh and also HAVE A wonderful other’s Day! God bless you!

  89. Happy Mother’s Day!!!
    Stacy,
    Some people just don’t understand that there is more to learn in the world of scrapbooking (and everywhere else) than just classes that involve a finished product of some sort. They don’t understand that a person can learn other things–like how to be creative, how to be organized, how to be motivated, how to be inspired, etc. etc. etc.
    Hang in there and know that not everyone has that tunnel vision and are willing to step out of the box and learn something new that will enhance their lives as well as their craft and art!
    Thanks for all you do.
    Ann

  90. Wow, Stacy…I don’t even know you or much about BPS, but I hate that you felt you had to defend yourself because of someone who probably didn’t think past their own selfishness in making those comments. Giving the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she was at the end of her own frustrating, crappy week and randomly took her angst out on you. Not that it makes it right, but at least you were able to deal with her graciously. I hope that helps her. I know it will help you because it always feels good to respond in a Godly way (maybe not right at the moment, but in the long run!). Hope you got home and are enjoying your family now!

  91. Stacy,
    I finished your Big Picture Scrapbooking this week, and was so inspired. I have 4 children, and take pictures daily. I have been paralyzed by the daunting amount of pictures which need to be developed or scrapbooked, and the desire to “keep up” with the new products in the industry.
    I now feel my focus back on what truly matters…preserving memories for our children, and sharing the stories of life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this book. Since reading it, I’ve created a number of meaningful things for our family again, and feel so free.
    You are an incredible inspiration, and I love what you have shared, and will continue to spread the word about “the big picture.” It is a lifestyle that everyone should know about! :)
    Love,
    Julie

  92. love you comment that …”if you feel $85 is not justified, then this is not the class for you…”. As adults we learn that we all have limited resources, time, $$, etc. and how we “choose” to use those resources is up to each individual and no one can say what is best for anyone except themselves. So, maybe instead of sending a snarly comment about greed and deception, perhaps a note asking for a shortened (aka less expensive) version of the class would have been a better way. Love your book, your philosophy AND your GENEROSITY…keep smilin’, you bring sunshine to so many.

  93. Happy Mother’s Day Stacy!
    I hope you are safely home with your family and relaxing after your trip.
    I have to say that I was very disppointed by some of the comments on the “veggie” site regrding BPS and your upcoming class. I am currrently enrolled in 2 BPS classes and enjoying them both. People seem to be quite ignorant of how much time and yes, money (site development, hosting, etc) go into what you are doing. YOU, my dear, are in no way greedy or deceiving… in fact I met you a few times at different events and you seem one of the most genuine and inspiring ladies in the industry!
    Keep up the good work and don’t let the Negative Nellies steal your joy!

  94. Lia Mahony says:

    Stacy, I think you are great.
    I have taken just about every class at BP (except CZs- so please ask her to do it again for me!)
    i love your whole philosohy, scrapbooking, parenting, life.
    You are an inspiration adn your forward thinking has pushed this hobby into a whole new direction.
    For that I am thankful.
    Please know your supporters out number any detractors.
    Goodluck and best wishes.
    Lia

  95. Stacy – I’m not even sure what to say. . .I read your blog – DAILY. I have read BPS going on 3 times. . .I am in the Donna class for the year. I subscribe to SS. . .I like to think i “GET” it. ..I like to think it is all because of you and the amazing team you have drawn together of other women who “GET” it. I have to say, I am really looking forward to your library class – I have to see if I can scrounge the $. You and your team and your ideas have liberated me. I enjoy scrapbooking – I enjoy taking pictures – I enjoy recording my life and my story. I am learning to let go of the guilt.
    Here are some big virtual hugs – and a thank you from the bottom of my heart – happy Mother’s Day -
    Your virtual (hope some day to be IRL) friend -
    Hillary

  96. nice is hard to be sometimes…that’s why one of my favorite movies is Pollyanna–I truely play the glad game in real life. I had someone say about me (of course not to my face) this week in response to the possibility that I might be leaving, “That’s one I won’t be sorry to see go!” Do you know the song, “This World’s not my home”? That’s a good song to sing during these kinds of days too…

  97. Janine Rutherford says:

    HI there Stacy. I am so sorry to hear that you have received some hurtful comments. I think you are amazing!!! You are such a positive person and every time I read your blog I get inspired to be more HAPPY with my life and situation. Please know that you have a positive effect on people around the world (I am in New Zealand). I love BPS and am currently doing my second class. I would love to do your class and reall really hope that you teach it again as with the exchange rate at the moment it is too expensive for me at this time. I hope you got home safe and sound to your family and received lots of cuddles from your boys. Happy Mothers Day and God Bless. Janine Rutherford

  98. Tammy Vangen says:

    Stacy,
    You are a wonderful person! I think that the average person would be a mess after a crazy trip like yours and the negative comments! But, you still find away to turn it around to be positive – you are a true inspiration! Thank-you! I hope you had a great Mother’s Day with some “sprinkles” on top!
    Tammy

  99. How amazing you are for showing your hurts as well as your “happies” – that is so hard to do. What a woman of God you are…

  100. And can I just say…. HOLY POSITIVE FEEDBACK!

  101. Bless your heart, I’m so sorry for your travel troubles (way to make lemonade, though!) And listen, you can’t please all the people…you know? It’s okay, the greater good will prevail, and I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for bringing BPS into my life. Just what I needed at a critical time, the perfect breath of fresh air, and if I’m happy, than everybody’s happy, you know?

  102. I just want to say that I would love to take this class about the photos because I believe in it. But the fee is a bit steep. Now, my husband has said that if we mange this month I can take it. He believes in it too. Happy me. I don’t think it’s not worth it but it’s a bit too much for me as a regular gal.
    I love the Big Picture Scrapbooking site. I still haven’t read the bok because of the money issue but I love what you teach. So many get confused and think they have to make a piece of art every time they scrapbook. What they forget is that no matter what everything they do make is art. Art for your family, for your memories and it doesn’t matter how it looks. The issue is keeping the memories and photos for the future. To remember and help the remembering. And I love you for teaching us that. That it doesn’t matter how we do it just that we do it. And to write write and write on the pages.
    Now, I need to find $85. Maybe I can use my kids piggi banks? It’s for their future right? ;-)
    And one more thing. This BPS thing with the classes. I love it because I who am in Sweden can take one of your classes and not having to pay for the plane tickets. Love it! Thank you Stacy.

  103. Just want to say that a lot of people appreciate BPS. As a mother of 4 this is the highlight of my life (after the kids of course). I have not been to a scrapbooking event of anykind for 2 and a half years. If it weren’t for BPS I would still be scrapbooking in the “dark”. Thanks for enriching our lives. You are amazing.
    And for the jetting around, even as tired as you can get it is all worth it . BPS is your dream, your baby. To see it grow is like watching your children succeed. You should take great pride in what you have accomplished so far. Can’t wait to see what else you have dreamed up in your brilliant head.
    Thank heaven for Stacy!!!!!!!
    Love,
    Staci in Utah

  104. Ceci Ortiz de Hurtado says:

    Hope you did it and get on time to celebrate Mother’s day with your family.
    I wonder if you are going to read all of this comments? Well you will have clear that you have a bigger group of fans how support you and the BP proyect than the people who write negative comments.
    I have a believe:
    You should know before start doing anything WHY you are doing this. If you are satisfied with what you are doing because it meets your goals, so no matter what others think you should feel in peace.
    I am so glad I can keep with all the news and trends of scrapbooking living here in Germany because I read SS and have PBS classes and more.
    Keep working, belive in what you are doing!
    Ceci

  105. I’m catching up on my blog reading and read your “Long Post after a Long Week”. I wanted to say I was sorry that some one made such disparaging remarks about BPS. I wanted to remind you to look at the many people who are currently signed up for classes, and how many of those are repeat customers. Those are the numbers that are truly important. I have 10 ladies that I scrap with and we are all addicted to BPS and your wonderful classes. I’m sure there are thousands more just like us. Personally, I look forward to staying up late on Wednesday nights so I can log in and look at what is in store for the week…heck, a lot of the time BPS is one of the highlights of my week! Try not to let the occasional bad apple ruin it for you (yeah, I know, easier said than done sometimes.). But do know that you and your BPS crew and teachers are appreciated by the vast majority of your students!!!

  106. Stacy-
    Please do not let negative comments get you down! The amount of people who love, admire, enjoy and are inspired by you outweigh the negative one hundred-fold! We GET you and what you are doing! Please keep it up and continue to be nice! It gives all of us something to aspire to!

  107. I have a plaque on my wall that says “Because Nice Matters.” Some people in this world CHOOSE to be unhappy, and I truly feel sorry for them because their only goal in life is to bring others down with them. Life is way too short and moments are way too precious to let unhappy people get to you. You are touching more women’s lives than you can imagine! Don’t let a couple of sourpusses skew that.

  108. Hi Stacy,
    I’m post #107 so I’m not sure that you’ll get this far! I haven’t read the other posts but I’m certain that they all say what I’m about to: don’t worry about the negative people – some people can only say negative things. No one that cares about the work all of you do thinks that you’re greedy. And, if you do make money, so what? You’re supposed to! Each of us has to decide for ourselves whether the BPS classes offer value or not. I’ve taken a bunch and found them all to be great. But, if one turns out to be less than I expected, so be it. I’ve washed enough favorite articles of clothing, that shrink to a point that it’s no longer comfy, to understand that sometimes these things happen! It’s just no big deal. I also questioned the price of the class, wondering if it would merit the expense – but that’s ok – each of us has to do that! And, we will each make that decision for ourselves – just as you said. If it’s too expensive, then to your point, don’t take it!! YOU are NOT responsible for that – we are all responsible to make our own decisions (I think the truth here is that everyone wants to take your class no matter what and no one wants to opt out due to expense!! so, it’s easier to blame you for making it too costly than to have to make the tough decision to just say ‘not this time’ – know what I mean?). So, get some rest and be happy and who cares about the rest. You all have a remarkable following and most of us will continue to be excited and supportive. For the rest, who cares!
    Have a great week and enjoy being home once again!
    Beth

  109. Mom2Nick says:

    Stacy,
    I’m so sorry to hear about your long ordeal. I hope that you enjoyed your Mother’s Day.
    I just want to say that I LOVE – LOVE – LOVE BPS and will continue to sign up for courses. I may get a little behind on some of the projects, but don’t fret over it since I have all the printouts and can catch up later. All of the classes I have signed up for have completely exceeded my expectations and find that the prices of each session is fairly priced.
    Keep up the good work!
    Laura

  110. Stacy,
    I love your book. Love what your doing. You have inspired me. Remember, for every negative commment – there are always 100+ positive women and men behind you. Find strength in that. And, well, MEAN people S—! I can’t even spell it out, because I’m just not that MEAN. LOL!
    Keep it coming! Lisa :)

  111. I love the BPS philosophy!!
    It has changed my way of thinking and revolutionised my scrapbooking.
    I have signed up for the 12 week course.
    Can’t send enough thanks and happy thoughts to you.
    Lots of yellow,
    Ray

  112. Laura H. says:

    Stacy….the one word that jumped out at me in your entire post was “balance”. Anyone who reads your blog knows that you are trying to balance an incredible workload with being a wife and mother. When we feel like we have everything under control in our families lives we know we can take on the world. Nothing can stop us and the criticism bounces off us because we know we can take it because we are “super Mom”.But when a Mom is tired and exhausted and she knows that her family is getting the short end of the stick ,well the mean words just cut that much deeper. You want to scream at that mean person…”don’t you realize all the family time I have given up to do these things for you! I haven’t read a story to my kids in days but the current class description is up by golly.”
    I have a scrapbooking business that takes up a huge amount of time and I too struggle for balance. It can be incredibly heart wrenching to try to juggle all the balls..the kids, the house, the hubby, the dog, our own mental health and oh yeah..the little business you have on the side called a job.
    Do I have a solution for you? Right now you sound like you need some major time with family. Cut back for a week at work and just spend quality time with the kids and hubby…update your stash of holiday napkins (I do this for my family now because of you and they remind me to buy the newest holiday napkin). Walk away from scrapping for a few days. We will all live…we will be okay. We need you to be okay too. I’m not saying that as a scrapper but as a woman who is juggling alot and fighting for balance with every fiber of her being, just like you.
    Get some rest, take a bubble bath, read a lighthearted novel (romance, mystery or something not enlightening), spend an hour updating your ipod. You give so much to so many people…take some time to give to yourself.
    Also…wouldn’t it be neat if we could all send YOU happy mail!
    thinking of you…

  113. Just now catching up on my blog reading and reading your post. It is most unfortunate that some folks spend so much of their time and energy being unhappy and spreading that feeling. I am so impressed with your ability to find the sunny side and choose to be happy, you have lots on your plate and I am amazed at the balance you are able to achieve! As I was replying to this post I noticed a favorite quote of mine stuck to my memo board right at eye level… it is so true.
    ” Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy” – Anne Frank
    Hope your Mother’s Day was marvelous! Tena

  114. Catherine says:

    Stacy,
    I find that there is one thing missing from all of those posts – WHY SHOULDN’T YOU MAKE MONEY FROM BPS?????????????? WHAT IS GREEDY ABOUT THAT?????????
    In your post you were responding to someone’s ignorant comment that you were in it to make money by saying that every dime has been reinvested into the site. I say, “WHAT IS WRONG WITH MAKING MONEY!!” I would hope that the hard work of you and your collegues would result in some income for yourselves. You don’t have to justify that to anyone. Their tone was insinuating that making money is some kind of evil thing. Your husband is a doctor – right? Probably making some great money – right? He was given gifts of intelligence and talent from God and studied hard and worked through all that schooling to get his degree to become a good doctor. Shouldn’t he be compensated well for that? Of course! You have been given great gifts from God also – your talent, your enthusiam, your love of scrapbooking, your love of people, your original ideas and philosophies. You have an energy that inspires many. Shouldn’t you also be compensated for that? Of course! Making money from your talents is not evil. You, and I am sure your husband, give back much to your community and reach out to others — directly a result of the gifts God has given to you both. There is nothing wrong with making money. The greatness of this country is due to enterprising people like yourself who work to make life better for all of us. I am sure that it is not all about the money for you, but my goodness, don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making a living from it too!
    By the way, I was one of those people who for years loved the idea of scrapbooking and collected and collected supplies and never made a single page. So overwhelmed by the idea of chronological scrapbooking and never being able to “catch up”. I was paralyzed – until I read your first book. Thanks to you, I have actually started scrapbooking (I’m making pages!!!!) and love it.
    Thank you!!
    Catherine

  115. MEAN PEOPLE SUCK. :-(
    Sorry that you had to be on the receiving end of someone else’s low self-esteem.
    The only bad thing that I can say about BPS is that Renee’s Doing It Digi Class was over last week and you haven’t announced a date for Part Two yet! Hop to it! ;-)I’m armed with PSE and dangerous!

  116. Tami L. says:

    Stacy
    I hope you had a blessed Mother’s Day! I just want to encourage you to keep on doing what you are doing. The Big Picture concept and classes are wonderful for people like me who don’t get many opportunities to attend large gatherings or conventions. I feel part of the large community of scrappers who have embraced your concepts and classes. You are truly an inspiration not just as a scrapper, but as a woman. You do so much for so many, and through it all you still find your happiness even when others are being bitter. Count it all joy, sister! Stay happy…stay strong!

  117. I always find it difficult to believe there are people in the world who think it is their right to cut other people up in the places that will hurt the most. They are seldom worth a second thought, but when it is professionally targeted that is not an option. I admire you for your compassion on the people who find criticism on such a personal level to be OK.
    You rawk, Stacy. I love your classes and am signed up for the organization one cause I NEED it. I took your scrapbooking elements class at San Antonio CKU and have been a fan ever since. :-)

  118. Oh Stacy, I’m sorry you had such an exhausting day. But, I HAVE to commend you on being such a ‘trooper’ through it all! When i saw your picture, you looked like you needed a big hug…so, {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}
    and btw, if YOU know if you heart that you are doing all that you need to do, and doing the best you can..don’t sweat it! As we say down here in the south, Bless their hearts…(and my mom’s addition) “in 100 years from now no one will remember!”
    PS…when are we gonna see all of y’all here in the deep south? We need something to take our mind off of all this bad news we’ve had here in Louisiana!
    ‘smoooch’!
    Jacquie

  119. Wow. Been there. Done that. I have a tear in my eye. I too love this business, but can very much so relate to your comments. I know that I cannot as a store owner make every customer happy every time. I can try. I won’t always succeed. I read something the other day that really helped me and so I thought I’d share:
    The remarkable thing we have is a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
    We cannot change our past…
    We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.
    We cannot change the inevitable.
    The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.”
    Charles R. Swindoll
    For me, it meant that I just had to remember that I do what I do because I love it and that the Pollyanna in me won’t let someone take that away.
    Thanks for your honesty in your blog. – Sheri

  120. Stacy-
    So glad to see that you’ve got so much support here! And I so admire you for your attitude — that you assume this woman needs happy mail and you are going to do it, even though she was not so kind to you.
    I walked in the Breast Cancer Three-Day walk and one of the sponsors had this motto:
    Humankind. Be both.
    I so love that. And I so love you for all you do and the example you set.
    xoxox
    Lain

  121. Gosh, Stacy!
    I’m so sorry you had to have an email like that–and I’m really sorry for the person who wrote it. Yeah, I know we’re supposed to develop a thick skin, but thick skin can’t always protect our hearts from hurting! :(
    Being an “altogether too happy” person most of the time myself, I’ve discovered that there are some people who are most intent when trying to pull us down to their misery–just try to surround yourself with happiness and hopefully the sting of nastiness will wash right off of you!
    Hugs, my friend!
    xoxo,
    Becca

  122. Stacy, wanted to leave you another comment to tell you about my husband’s reaction to your Library class…
    I was debating whether or not to enroll for the class (I waited too long boo hoo!) and told Mike that one of my concerns was the price since our budget is tight right now. I told him all about the class and he asked “well, how much are you talking about?” When I told him $85, he looked shocked. “I thought you were going to say $250 or something! You can take that class with HER for only $85? Well TAKE IT!”
    So even my non-scrapping husband knows your Library class is a good value! :-)
    I’ll be one of the first sign-ups for January!

  123. I am very sorry that you were talked to tlike that in reguards to your classes back in May. many times people lose sight of what they are really unhappy about. Her words were unnecissarily harsh and uncalled for. I am so pleased you are a bigger person than she is and that you can recover from her venomous words. Being in the public eye takes it a toll on a person. It is remarkable how well you hold it all together. Keep your chin up and don’t let the little snakes in the grass get to you. I hope your move goes well.

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