Friday FIVE for October 2nd (family style)

I had a Friday FIVE featuring fun products almost ready to post this morning. In fact, it was posted for a short time — I’m still learning how to draft/edit/post/ in my new blog. Anyway … I don’t feel like posting about product. I feel like posting a family update, so here’s my ‘real’ Friday FIVE.

ONE The Homecoming Dance.

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Clark asked his friend Kelby to the homecoming dance last night. He’ll find out today at school what her answer is. Deep down inside the jar of dill pickles, is a pickle with an invitation inside — we scooped out the guts of the biggest pickle we could find and slipped in a full sheet of paper (folded very small and wrapped in tin foil.) We then secured the pickle with three little hair elastics. You can hardly tell — so cool!

The note inside reads:
I’ll be in a pickle if you don’t go the homecoming with me. The following instructions are then given …

  1. Remove one ‘No Dill’ pickle from the jar and place in a plastic baggie.
  2. Remove one ‘Sweet!” pickle from the jar and place in a plastic baggie.
  3. Bring these pickles to school tomorrow and wait for further instruction.

Technically, Kelby does not yet know who the invitation is from (although there is a good chance she’ll guess.) Clark is prepared to finish the invitation in a class they have together — the pickle she returns to Clark will indicate her answer.

TWO One of my MOST Favorite Photos.

I snapped this picture of Chase last March. Our family was checking in at the airport so we could fly to Denver for spring break. I noticed Chase was missing (happens often) I looked around and saw him sitting and chatting with this elderly man.

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Chase has ADHD which is Absolutely Difficult sometimes Heartbreaking and often Discouraging to deal with. This week has been a tough one, but we are pulling through. I’ve been praying and putting in extra time to help him. Next week is our first meeting with counselors, teachers,  his tutor and mom and dad. I woke up this morning with exactly the inspiration I’ve been praying for.

I will print this photo and give it to everyone in the room. I will then tell them …

This is Chase, who …
1. easily engages in conversation with strangers — especially the very young and the very experienced.
2. who will remember your pet’s name and the story you tell him about your vacation (in five years.)
3. who will observe other students in your class, sense their needs and emotions and risk getting into trouble to help them.
4. who wants nothing more than to be recognized for the good and right things he does.
5. who is starting his 10th year of school where in spite of his best efforts is sent the message (generally speaking) that he “isn’t enough.”

I will tell this group of administrators and teachers that this is Chase and that they have the amazing opportunity to know him, influence him, shape him and direct him. I will ask them to please help me, help Chase understand his potential as a human being.

THREE Boy Scouts.

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Trey received his Arrow of Light award last night at a big bon fire pack meeting of our BSA troop. This means he is was advanced from cub scouts to boy scouts. He did not get the new ‘tan’ shirt he needed, because his mother launched a new website and was too tired to drive to the scout store. He said, “it’s OK Mom, it’s just a shirt — I’m still a boy scout.”

FOUR A Cardboard Cape Code Cottage.

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Taft is my boy that needs dedicated alone time at least 3 or 4 times a week. This is not easy to provide within a family like ours. If Taft does not get his dedicated alone time, he withdraws and becomes very negative and critical. I told Taft last Saturday (before my jetlag from Japan suddenly hit me) that we should make the BIG cardboard box that we delivered into a house for Addie. I told him we should paint it proper and cut windows, make shutters and flower boxes, etc…
Just for the record, I might have one or twice since then questioned my sanity in making these suggestions to Taft, who takes all suggestions as promises. I finally told him on Wednesday, that I would absolutely follow through on the house-making after my website went live. Yesterday after school he picked the color and I told him that using that blue we could make this box into a cardboard Cape Code Cottage for Addie.

We’ll keep you posted on our progress.

FIVE How does She do it?

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How does she get up between 5:30 and 6:00 and continue to come out of her room at night (often until 10:30) and go STRONG all day long? I asked Geoff and he said, “she takes after her mother”

Great.

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Comments

  1. That 5 beat any products you would have shown. I was touched by your words for Chase and laughed out loud (hey, I’m at work and need to keep that underwraps!) at the pickles and Addie’s energy. But, hey, mom, cut yourself some slack! I saw the self-dig and recognized it right away (why are we moms so good at that?) If I had 5 kids I’m not sure my son would have: a) made it to Scouts at all; and/or b) had a shirt on at all. Thanks for continuing to share yourself and your inspiration, the website is fabulous!

  2. Stacy, you do not stop in giving me good ideas. I will start actualizing my kids (just 4) activities as you did. I love your new, old, ever blog! Good for your kids for having a mom like you ( the pickles jars, the little cottage, the meaningful picture!!!!)

  3. Oh, Stacy.

    I just hurt hearing about Chase. I had issues with ADD (I wasn’t hyper) and a lot of time felt as Chase does. And still do. And then I watch Jackson after him trying to recover after his third grade year of hearing similar messages even though he had no control of his problems because of his health. This school year is getting better and he is achieving more. I totally think that his involvement with a competitive swimming team has helped because he has to focus on what he has to do to improve his times and cannot rely on the others for that.

    If only we can all do like Ali; embrace imperfection.

  4. You have my entire sympathy for your challenges with Chase. My 7 year old is in the same boat, along with some other developmental static to deal with. I can’t tell you how much it helps to see your postings and Ali Edward’s about Simon and see how you two manage with the grace and persistance and love that you do. It IS hard, and heartbreaking, but our kids are good kids ,and we all want the best for them. If it helps, my sister-in-law, who has the same suite of issues as my child, is now an accomplished and respected scientist. Her advice is that we need to teach our kids never to give up and always do their best – not just what other people expect of them. Bless you for continuing to come up with great inspirations for all of us while you have all the above on your plate. =] Great website, too!

  5. Oh my gosh, Stacy – you’ve been through a whirlwind! I cried during your post about Chase (seeing the same tender mercies in my boys), chuckled at the cub scout (no tan shirt) part because you can’t do it all, shook my head in understanding about Taft and his taking suggestions as promises (I have one of those too) and then laughed out loud when I saw Addie in the pantry. My boys do that, but my daughter never did. She’s too cute to get into trouble, isn’t she?!? haha :-)

  6. My 8 year-old has ADHD too. It’s difficult and frustrating – but tender moments like this make him so special and wonderful. Thanks for sharing!

  7. I too have a son with ADHD, although not hyperactive. He is now 28, the father of 2, a hard worker and can fix absolutely anything with a motor, because his brain sees the big picture we don’t. However, he didn’t graduate from high school. Got 6 100′s on the TAPS tests in high school (which he was acused of cheating on, until he took them again and got 100 on7 areas), got a 28 on the ACTs and has a really high IQ. He was 2 credits short. About 3 years ago he walked into the local college, took the GED and aced it.

    When he was in school, they wanted to drug him. Their answer to everything. After alot of prayer about it, I knew that wasn’t the answer. We needed to learn to accept Kendall for what he was, a super intelligent, super productive person, who didn’t do well academically. He has so many talents, that now as an adult, it doesn’t seem to make much difference about the academics. And I feel like he has learned how to deal witht the ADHD in his life and is better for it, without the drugs.

    I think the picture idea is great! You go girl! Good luck and my prayers will be with you!

    By the way, love the website!

  8. Stacy–This entry just touched my heart in so many ways!

    As a former high school teacher (I taught 10th grade for 10 years!)…it just really spoke to me, the way you are being an ADVOCATE for Chase. He is lucky to have you and if his teachers and administrators are smart…they will know how lucky THEY are to have you on Chase’s team. As a mom to a “quirky” boy, I have realized that sadly, school is not always set up for those who are don’t fit neatly into boxes. When I taught school, I adored my “quirky” kids and realized that although school was so often a struggle for them, they were also some of the nicest, sweetest, brightest kids I’d ever taught. My prayer is that together, you and Chase and his teachers, will be able to work together in a way that helps Chase learn and learn that school is not a place for failure–but for growth.

    And yet again…reading your blog…reminds me that I am not alone! I too have been too tired after a crazy week at work (mine was working with grad students on thesis projects) to get the right scout shirt! I love too that you are raising a son like Trey who knows not to sweat the small stuff. So cool. And thank you for letting me “let go” of some mommy guilt along the way.

    Finally…I love that you make grandiose plans that are hard to keep…but you some how manage to…I am SO guilty of coming up with “great ideas” that usually draft my husband into something he had NOT planned on doing or that keep me up all hours. What a sweet memory Taft and Addie will have from that little play house.

    Okay that wasn’t finally…as the mom of three little boys…your sweet little princess never fails to warm my heart.

    :), Marie

    P.S. Thanks for “keeping it real”…your blog not only inspires me to make pretty things but to try to make a prettier life for my family.

  9. Oh Stacy, Stacy,
    I guess I’m not the only Mom who can relate to the Chase part of your Friday Five (your best one ever BTW). I wept in recognition – especially the relating to vulnerable older and younger populations and the standing up for justice issues. I have had to close the door on my siblings and their bursary-laden, Harvard-early-entry children and accept that those report cards that come home are NOT a reflection of WHO my son IS, nor of his capacities to take on the world. In June we celebrated the end of my son’s high school studies – years of pushing, pulling and dragging him and his teachers (God love ‘em, they sincerely tried) into the world of learning differences and necessary adaptations. My son now wants to become a teacher himself to help “other kids like me who don’t have the supports they need”. He has taken a year off before throwing himself into that plan so that we can all take a huge, deep breath. Mommy doesn’t get to go to university to make it alright. He is a brave soul to want to venture in that direction. In the meantime, he turned 18 last Saturday – finally of legal voting age and desperate to pursue his true passion – politics. So this is what he decided to do:

    http://www.paherald.sk.ca/index.cfm?sid=291426&sc=4

    And Stacy, you’ll appreciate this: Mommy was on a business trip when he tossed his name into the ring. How’s that for neglectful parenting. Continue to support Chase and give him the room he needs to grow. He undoubtedly makes you proud and will certainly continue to do so.

  10. Thank you SO much for sharing your heart and your life – both the up’s and down’s. So heart warming. And what a creative way to ask a girl to prom. That’s just the BEST!!

  11. Thank you for sharing your stories about your family. I know it can be weird to put it all out there for public consumption, but this is the kind of community we all need, since we don’t get it as much in our real life communities. Your words about Chase struck me too. Your words about all your kids did in fact. In the end as mothers all we can really do is love our kids, see their potential and fiercely advocate on their behalf. My daughter has no diagnosable conditions, but we’ve been in similar meetings for her. It’s heartbreaking. You want to scream at them, this person sitting in front of you is so much more than these incidents. My heart is with you. Chase is better for having strong parents behind him. I have to believe that in the end that will prevail.

  12. Your new site is just brilliant! I love it, and it’s fired me up to redesign my book arts website.
    As for your Friday five, it is the perfect example of how the web can connect us. Here I sit in London, brimming with pride and admiration at the fine people that your children are growing into. I hope you’re taking care of yourself a little now that the website is up!

  13. ADHD is such a hard thing to deal with. My 8yr old was diagnosed last year (not Hyper, just ADD). We knew he had it since he was 5, but we had hoped that we could help him without a diagnosis and medicine. We were wrong. He is just like what you described Chase. The Lord had a different path for us. The school, and class he was in, made him feel like he couldn’t do anything. His self-esteem hit an all time low, and we swallowed our pride and tried medication. Within a week, he could tell a difference. He would say “Mom, I can listen to the teacher and remember what she said”. Grades, Self-esteem, everything improved. But most important to us, we got our happy kid back and he knew that he had worth. (We have also since changed schools and have a teacher who “gets” it and helps us help him) Fortunatley there are a lot of people out there for support, and they all have an opinion of treatment. Only you can decide what is best for your family! Prayers for you and your family.

    Oh, and if only we could bottle Addie’s energy, wouldn’t that be wonderful!

    Love the creative idea for the invite…how cute!

  14. Loved it, all of it. We are not alone. Interesting, I had a similiar, but different post today.

  15. I LOVE your website, Stacy! Payton just advanced to “11 yr old scouts” last night, too. I just can’t believe it. Give Trey a hug from us, and Chase, too. Heck, give ‘em all a hug! Hope your meeting w/the teachers and counselors go well.

  16. You know what I love about 3rd kids – they are just happy to have a shirt! My boss have 4 of the cutest daughters – his 3rd has a backpack bought cheaply at LLbean – monogrammed too – but not with her name. He says”She’s just happy to have a backpack!” How do I teach my only child to just be happy she has a backpack! or a cub scout shirt. Your kids are precious! Love hearing about them. Between your blog and your scrapbook pages – I feel like I know them!

  17. Oh, Stacy!! You are such an inspiration. My stepson was “labeled” ADHD (although I strongly think the diagnosis was wrong and he has Asperger’s Syndrome). It’s really a hard situation because others are not appreciating Chase as an individual. Good for you for making them see who Chase is. He will be benefit from that so much almost as much as he has no doubt benefitted from having a mom that supports him.

    And I absolutely love the pickle idea! Gonna have to save that one for use in a few years!

  18. 1. Addie – I wonder the same thing about my daughter. How can she not nap and go strong ALL day and then not go to sleep at night? It wears me out. I love her skirt, too.

    2. Chase – I have a younger brother with Tourette’s and he had similar struggles until my parents finally started homeschooling him in 6th grade. I know it doesn’t help, because I’m a complete stranger, but when I think of Chase, I think of a strong, kind, sweet and lovable boy. The person you described with this photo is the person you’ve described in your scrapbook pages and posts and classes and anywhere else I’ve seen you talk about him over the last ten or so years. I hope he knows that there are people who do see him as the person he and that he has value in the real world. My thoughts are with you as you go into this difficult meeting.

  19. Stacy- Hooray for you being Chase’s cheerleader. My Chase turns 19 in just a couple of weeks and he was the kid who although struggling with ADHD is turning into an amazing man who loves people and can do almost anything when he puts his mind and heart into it. :) I’ll be saying a little prayer for you as you continue on your quest. We moms have amazing influence. Good for you that you’re using it! :)

  20. Stacy, your words about Chase also struck a chord with me. My younger son is ADD. We have tried the medication, and it worked for a little while. Aaron doesn’t want to remember to take it regularly. We have had the academic issues, and the self-esteem issues, and all of that. I wish I had thought of the way you’re going to handle the parent-teacher conference. I am also a teacher. I will have to look at my students a little differently now because of your post. Thank you.

  21. This is a beautiful post and you have a beautiful family. I cried reading about Chase, you could have been writing about my youngest Brianna. Right now, things have never been harder for her. It hurts as a mother to not be able to kiss and hug the pain away. I have found out in my journy with Bree that teacher need to be more educated about ADHD. Good luck to you in you meetings, I truely hope that everyone you pass that picture too looks at and sees Chase for who he is.

  22. Reading these comments sure does make me stop and wonder why there are so many of us with boys diagnosed with ADHD. My 4th grader was diagnosed almost a year ago. He is on year 3 of struggling in school, and still not getting what he needs, or being what they think he should be. It’s frustrating on a good day, and completely overwhelming for the entire family on a regular basis. It’s like I have to re-learn how to parent him every. single. day. And then I have to motivate someone who didn’t give birth to him, who is overworked and underpaid and has 35 students, to make that same kind of effort to help him succeed.

    Best of luck with your school meeting! I think your tactic is awesome.

  23. Stacy, I know what you mean about Chase. I have a son who does not have ADD they say, but is in the Gifted Program at his school but is also labeled as LD. So with the IEP and teachers and him it is a struggle every year and when you have children like them it is difficult on us as Moms the most because we want to fix it and make everyone see them the way that we see them. (The caring, compasssionate, stand up for other friends who are being picked on person) But at the end of the day we just have to be able to get into bed at night and say to ourselves “Today we got thru it and I did the best I could at this given moment for my children and I am happy with that, and tomorrow it starts all over so get some sleep) You are in my thoughts.

  24. Maribeth Thomas says:

    Stacy,

    I am a school principal and would like your permission to share the picture of Chase and you eloquent words with my staff. Teachers need to hear from the hearts of parents. Your thoughts are on target for how to share with teachers. ADHD kiddos often have to struggle through the “game” of school”, but they end up doing well in life, as long as they have a great assistant! :) Blessings to you and your family.

  25. Stacy

    Thanks for writing things I needed to hear and see today! Your words about Chase and so awesome!!! I have 3 children in Elementary school – - none have been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, although it has been suggested!! We struggle so much with teachers not seeing who our children really are. It seems they are so focused on what your child can’t do – that they don’t see or build up what they can do.
    My youngest is in 2nd grade and stopped his principal on the playground today and asked him if he would talk to his teachers and ask them to be nice to him!! Breaks my heart!!!
    Thank you for making a list – - I am starting on mine tonight!! We have Parent-Teacher Conference in a couple of weeks and I need to have my thoughts in order!
    To Maribeth Thomas – - Thank you!! I wish all principals and teachers would listen to the hearts of parents!

    God Bless you and Thank you so much!!!

  26. Sandee Blair says:

    Your description of Chase is heartwarming. As a Vice-Principal/Counsellor, I would ask that you enter that meeting with the belief that the school people also want to know these, and the as yet undiscovered qualities of your son; show them you believe this is not a “them and us” meeting but we are all in this together, this being working towards Chase’s learning and school success. While it sounds like you are anticipating difficulty, no doubt based on past experience, know that none of us entered this work to make children feel they are “not enough”. We want to lift children up. And if it goes badly anyway, we would welcome Chase to our school :)

  27. Oh Stacy, your post on Chase’s ADHD truly hit home. My son, also in 10th grade, has ADHD. He is all those things that you described Chase as being. Don’t you want to scream at the top of your lungs sometimes at teachers that can’t say anything good about your child. I used to dread going to parent/teacher conferences because they never said anything good about Matt. Everything was negative. I was always heartsick for him. Matt wants approval more than anything in this world. Like Chase, he is the first to notice when someone around him is hurting, or needing some cheering up. He’s always been such a wonderful child, and I just wanted everyone to see just how wonderful he was, instead of telling me what he’s doing wrong all the time. No one does everything right all time. When he was in 7th grade I decided to pull him out of school and homeschool. Something I swore I could never do. The principal of his school actually suggested it. He went to a small school that didn’t have the extra people around to help him stay focused. It was a hard decision, but a good one. He has flourished tremendously, and has come along way since our first days of homeschooling. Best of all, he no longer has to take meds. The doctor never could get his dosage right, and he had terrible side effects. He suffered from sleeplessness, loss of appetite, and nausea. We tried all different types and brands. I felt so sorry for the kid because if he took his meds and went to school, he felt terrible all day, and then when he didn’t take his meds, I hear about it from the teacher. It was a lose/lose situation for us. Anyway, I’m not saying you should homeschool, because I’m sure Chase is doing just fine. I just wanted say that I am so glad that you were humble enough to open up about Chase to us, and do it so positively. It made me feel not so alone in the world of ADHD. Thanks “) Amy

    BTW… I love your new website!!!

  28. Stacy,

    I love what you wrote about Chase. I am thinking of all of you and sending vibes.

    And…I love your new website! Go Stacy Go!

    Leora

  29. Stacy,
    As a jr. high special education teacher your post about Chase is inspiring and heartbreaking. I deal with the low self esteem, not good enough, and then this results in the low motivation every day. BUT there are teachers out there that care, that want to be these kids cheerleaders, that went into the profession to work with these kids and help them feel successful. Ask the school if they have a mentor program and see if you can get him a mentor at school. I am a mentor to two students and they come to my room to escape the negativity and take time to breathe once in a while. He is very fortunate to have you as his advocate, to go in on his behalf and seek to work with the school wholeheartedly. If you haven’t already, ask about a 504 plan, or if he would qualify for consult services through the RSP program. As an RSP teacher I have some students on my caseload that are not in need of RSP classes, but do need me to help their general education teachers work with them and accommodate their unique needs. Hugs to you!

  30. It always amazes me how you do it all. I have 2 kids and work outside the home so I’m always amazed when some do so much more than me with more kids. Both my son and daughter have joined scouts this year so I am getting ready for the crazy ride. I love that picture of Chase with the elderly gentleman. Kuddos to you and your husband for raising such a wonderful family. You will get through this, and you will get Chase through this.

  31. What can I say exept that my tears are flowing… What a glorious day it will be in next life when Chase is free from this earthly bonderies and what is really him will be seen whitout any destactions. That is what I rejoysed over when our 14 yrs old daughter died after struggling with brain tumor for half her life, that now her intelligence was set free after having been trapped in by a damaged memory because of radiotherapy. I still rejoys every day even if I miss her so much. Love to you and Chase.

  32. Kathryn Methot says:

    Reading about Chase absolutely floored me. It was as if you were describing my son Marc, now 20, who struggled so much, but is now blossoming in college. All five points fit Marc so precisely. The only difference: Marc has Asperger’s syndrome instead of ADHD. Chase will continue to amaze you. Take it from one who knows.

  33. I too have a child with ADD. She is now a 35 year old wonderful woman with a terrific husband and the mother of my amazing grandson. She was one of the few 28 years ago to be diagnosed. Not all teachers were helpful and I am sorry to say one was cruel and because we lived in a small town, my daughter had to have her for a second time when they moved the teacher to the older kids. The one trait that repeatedly amazes me about this wonderful woman is her empathetic nature. At 4 years old she attended the funeral of the father of a friend of ours. Mark wandered off and was sitting on a bluff alone when my husband was looking around for her. He spotted her talking to Mark ( a 35 year old man) and offering her empathy and wisdom in counseling. He told us that she helped him the most. These children are often tortured by this condition, but they have the most kind and caring of hearts and we can learn much from them.

  34. I love the new format. I have a 17 year old son with dyslexia – a wonderful 3rd grade teacher helped me see that John may not make all A’s, but has great potential. Our school system has worked with us and he’s doing all kinds of things that I never thought he’d try. He’s one of those kids that still hugs me, loves to talk about his day, and has lots of friends because he really cares about their struggles and lives. Chase sounds like an amazing young man, I pray that the school personnel really hear what you have to say about your son and come along side to help Chase find a path in this life that will bless others.

  35. Oh Stacy, as the mother of two special needs children I can relate. My oldest has a motor planning disorder, which impacts speech, fine motor control, etc. and I have a youger son on the autism spectrum. As sad as it is, people have (mostly) responded supportively to my daughter becuase her issues don’t have an impact on her behavior. My son, however, is percieved in such a different way. Transitioning issues, impulse control issues, and a deficit in reading social cues may as well have painted a target on my gorgeous son’s back at times. He is only four, and I know that school will be an issue for many years to come, as well as for my daughter. love them well, hug them close and continue to be an advocate and inspiration.

  36. Lisa Hulsey says:

    Thanks for keeping it real! It is such a blessing and so motivating to read about other moms and their real-life stories instead of just the “pretty perfect pictures” we see in typical magazines and advertising. Scrapbooking to me is telling a story and all of our stories are real and true and rarely ever flawless! That is what makes us incredible as women and moms! I love your new webpage. Awesome inspiration that I can’t wait to dig in to!

  37. As moms we kill ourselves with guilt– that our child didn’t get XYZ because we ran out of time in the day— but as your baby showed you we guilt ourselves for nothing!!! life keeps moving forward even if we are a step behind once in awhile. He still got his arrow of light.. and he still got to have fun at the bon-fire– shirt or no shirt… and you got to see your website launch–in my book it was a good day all around!! We all need to remember that!

  38. Oh, I can so relate to #2. My DS has the same issues. He is so smart but many teachers don’t see it. He has a kind heart and will stand up for his friends. He is funny and happy go lucky BUT can drive you insane:) We are having mostly good days lately. He is very close in age to your guy. It is so smart to bring that photo. I am a teacher and would just be so touched by it.

  39. Stacy,
    Your book and blog have energized and encouraged me for quite some time. Your new website is simply awesome! I love the color challenges. But this post stood out to me today. I have been reading about strengths (StrengthsFinder) and loved that you listed strengths for your children. I wish all moms would take the time to see the strengths each child has and increase the opportunities for him or her to use them. Your post shows us you indeed are a real life person in the same or similar place in life that we find ourselves. Thank you for sharing such intimate details of your life. You are inspiring.

  40. Congrats on the new website, Stacy. I’ve spent some time over the last few days looking it all over and having fun. I can’t wait to see how it grows.

    I have to tell you how the Chase part of this post moved me…as a mother in general, as a person with A.D.D. (without the H-part), and also as a mother of a child who struggles with it. I love that photo and learning so many of Chase’s very cool traits…traits many of us understand probably come from that very A.D.H.D. that can makes certain parts of life difficult. Thanks for sharing with us how you’re standing by your son.

    While I’m here I should also thank you for inspiring me to organize my photo library when your books came out. It has helped me complete so many of the projects I do weekly for Paperclipping. I am very proud to say that two days ago I finished getting my entire digital library of photos for 2009 organized, including choosing what to print, separating them into their printing seasons, and then tagging them! I can’t believe I’m all caught up this year and ready for a new round of holiday photos. Thanks, Stacy!

  41. What a beautiful tribute to your son Chase! :)

  42. Stacy, I love your picture of Chase and what you wrote about him. I love that you are sharing the part of him that you know with the teachers and the administrators. I love that as a parent you SHOW UP. As a former teacher I experienced too many students whose parents didn’t show up and share their knowledge and input about their child. Or were willing to listen in order to help their child. I hope Chase (and you) have an amazing 10th year.

  43. In your description of Chase you could be describing my Carson. He is truly the most empathic, kind hearted child and somehow sees what others miss. He was diagnosed ADHD combined (which is why I was in complete denial of him having this) two years ago. We have our ups and downs (one teacher went so far as to say he hadn’t ‘earned’ his A’s and B’s last year because he didn’t pay enough attention to her…thankfully, she is not teaching this year!) and times when we honestly want to pull all of our hair out, but at the end of the day, we have an amazing son who lights up our lives, works hard for what he has and would do anything to please anyone. It sounds like he and Cahse have a lot in common.
    As for Addie, would that I had her energy. :)

  44. Nikki Mitchell says:

    My heart broke as I was reading your post about Chase! That describes my 7 year old, John. He has some Asperger’s characteristics along with the ADHD. As a mother, you want the world to love your child as much as you do. In reality it is not going to happen! That is why God gave you Chase and me, John to love like no one else can! Thanks for the window into your world so that we can all be encouraged!

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