We had a late night last night. Chase was at a friend’s party and Clark was downstairs watching a video with his friends. Geoff and I started a movie at 10:00pm (that’s late for me!) We were up until midnight and I fully anticipated a nap today, but I’m not feeling super tired so I’m posting to my blog instead of sleeping (weird.)
Anyway, I found a cool Christmas resource this morning called Christ: The Real Gift of Christmas and I found an idea for a family discussion that we did right after church.
FYI: I bought this Greg Olson print this year and am having it framed. I love what it says (to me) about priorities at Christmas. Here’s the LINK.
Have everyone gather around tell them you would like to discuss individual and family priorities at Christmas time. Tell them there are NO wrong or right answers and ask them to be totally honest and willing to share their perspective. Give each person a sheet of paper and a pencil and have them write the following words down the left-hand side of the page: GIFTS, FRIENDS, DECORATIONS, CHRIST, TRADITIONS, FOOD/TREATS, FAMILY
Ask each person to:
- Create two columns
- Label the first column “Most Exciting”
- Have each person rate their top three aspects of Christmas. My kids responded well when I said they could “vote” for the three things that are most exciting to them.
- Label the second column “Most Important”
- Have each person to look at the same list of words and rate their top three again.
- Remind them that they can have some of the same words on both lists, or completely different words — there is no correct way.
- Now ask each person to circle those words/items that did not make either of their lists. Ask them if they believe they could celebrate Christmas without these things?
When everyone is done take turns sharing individual Christmas priorities and discuss how understanding these things in themselves and in their family members can make a difference in your home. Talk about the priorities you all share. Talk about what you can do this year as you plan activities to align what you more closely with your family priorities.
Here are the Julian’s priorities:
TAFT: Most Exciting (gifts, food/treats, friends) + Most Important (friends, Christ, food/treats)
TREY: Most Exciting (family, decorations, food/treats) + Most Important (Christ, family, traditions)
CHASE: Most Exciting (family, food/treats, gifts) + Most Important (Christ, food/treats, family)
CLARK: Most Exciting (Christ, decorations, food/treats) + Most Important (Christ, family, friends)
GEOFF: Most Exciting (friends, gifts, decorations) + Most Important (Christ, friends, gifts)
STACY: Most Exciting (gifts, traditions, decorations) + Most Important (Christ, family, traditions)
I’m not sure what I was expecting, but this was indeed enlightening — I learned interesting things about myself, my husband and my children. I’m going to print my blog post and include it in our Christmas album. I think it’s interesting to see what children value as they grow up and it’s so intriguing to note the differences in my priorities vs. my husbands — totally explains why my husband loves the social side of Christmas and I’m so set on doing things in a certain “way.”
If you end up doing this or something similar in your home, leave me a comment and tell me what you learned!