Forget Not.

It’s General Conference time for LDS people across the world.
Yesterday evening I attended the annual broadcast for women (Relief Society) and listened to an amazing talk, by Elder Deiter F. Uchtdorf. He spoke of tiny Forget Me Not flowers that can sometimes be overlooked in the mix of larger, more exotic and glorious blooms, but which in their tiny way seem to mirror the majesty of the sky (or something like that!) Anyway, he referenced a German folktale suggesting that when God was finished naming all of the flowers, this little blue flower looked up and said, “wait … forget me not” and so it was thus named.

Elder Uchtdorf used the Forget Me Not and it’s five petals as a metaphor to remind us of five things we need to NOT forget … I’m paraphrasing bits and pieces of his message, which is a message that any women of faith would appreciate and feel strengthened by. Since I am always eager to share things on my blog that help me or make me happy, I’m sharing, this talk — because it did both!

1. Forget Not to be patient with yourself.

God is fully aware that you and I are not perfect. He is also fully aware that the people we think are perfect are not. And yet we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Usually we compare our weaknesses to others’ strengths. This drives us to create expectations for ourselves that are impossible to meet. As a result, we seldom celebrate our good efforts, because they seem to be less than what someone else does. It is wonderful that we have strengths and it is part of our mortal experience to have weaknesses — eventually, all of our weaknesses can become strengths, but this is a LONG term goal. We need to keep working on making ourselves better, but we must stop punishing ourselves in the meantime (good stuff!)

2. Forget Not the difference between a good sacrifice and foolish sacrifice.

Elder Uchtdorf shared a couple funny examples of over-the-top sacrifice–the kind where we women work too hard to make something “perfect” or at least super-impressive when its not necessary.  Every person and every situation is different, but we can generally tell that our sacrifices are the right kind, when we are committing our time and energies to the things that matter most. There are so many good things to do, but we can’t do all of them. Our Heavenly Father is most pleased when we sacrifice something good for something far greater in an eternal perspective. Sometimes it is nurturing the seemingly small and insignificant Forget Me Not flowers in our life’s garden that will make the biggest difference in the end.

3. Forget Not to be happy now.

There’s nothing wrong with hoping for good things to happen. We should never stop hoping or striving for the best in us and in life, but we need to remember that problems arise when we put our happiness on hold, while we wait for some “golden ticket” to appear and fulfill all of our dreams. The happiest people are those who while in pursuit of worthy goals discover and treasure the beauty and sweetness of everyday moments (love this!)

4. Forget Not the “why” of the gospel.

We need to be careful not to see the opportunities of a christian life as a list of tasks on an already impossibly long to-do list. We sometimes focus too much on what has to be done and how to get it done, but we forget why we’re doing it. When we understand why our Heavenly Father has given us a pattern for living then the path of discipleship becomes a joy and a delight and we’re able to draw on the light and direction that good choices bring into our lives.

5. Forget Not that the Lord loves you.

I absolutely loved the very specific words Elder Uchtdorf shared for this last point, “You are not forgotten. Wherever you are. Whatever the circumstances may be. You are not forgotten. No matter how dark your days may seem. No matter how insignificant you may feel or how overshadowed you think you may be. Your Heavenly Father has not forgotten you. He loves you with an infinite love. Just think of it. You are known and remembered by the most majestic, powerful and glorious being in the universe. You are loved by the King of infinite space and everlasting time. He who created and knows the stars, knows your name. You are one of his most precious daughters.” (wow!)

I hope some of you may actually take the time to listen to this message. It’s really so much better than my little summary.
Have a wonderful sabbath!


  1. Wonderful message! I’m looking forward to watching it for myself. (I set up the DVR to record it today.)

  2. Thanks for sharing this Stacy. That talk really stuck with me too. He is so fun to listen to and had some great metaphors to get across his message. My favorite was when he spoke of perfection. :)

  3. It was a fabulous broadcast. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  4. Oh, thank you so much Stacy for sharing this today! These are words that I needed to hear. I’m feeling over run with boxes, unpacking and cleaning from our move while trying to keep track of two little ones in a city and state I have never been to before! I’m way out of my comfort level, and it is so nice to be reminded that even though lots of things in my life are different right now, God is still the same. Blessings!

  5. Thank you so much for posting this! I read it right after I finished with my quiet time this morning — feeling sort of defeated and burned out over where I feel God has placed me right now. This just spoke to me on so many points and I am very grateful to you for sharing this!

  6. Kary in Colorado says:

    Loved this talk! And did you notice that his tie was forget-me-not blue? When he first stood up I thought, what an unusual color of tie to wear for a conference talk. Then it became obvious why he chose it!

  7. I loved Elder Uchtdorf’s talk. I wasn’t sure if I was going to even go, but pushed myself and was so glad I did. It is one I want to bookmark, have in my journal, and read regularly. A great reminder and source of encouragement.

  8. Isn’t President Uchtdorf amazing? He has a way of speaking to women and reminding us to see the great good that we are already doing while encouraging us to be better. How blessed we are to hear his words and to be able to go back to them again and again and how wonderful that women like you are able and willing to share his message with all women. Thank you!

  9. Wasn’t his message inspiring? I loved it…and got to hear it up close and personal while looking right at the back of his head! I was involved in the choir for this meeting and to say it was humbling and amazing would be the understatement of the world. Yay for the truth of the gospel, and yay for women united in righteousness!

  10. Christine H says:

    I sent the quote in #5 to my very best friend of almost 30 years. Her husband of 24 years has decided their marriage no longer works for him. She is dumbfounded, hurt….feeling abandoned in an earthly and heavenly manner. I know she will be OK, eventually. I just have to keep reminding her and praying constantly. Thanks for sharing this.

  11. Karen Schmidt says:

    The message was awesome!. I printed ur post off and am going to give it to my 14 years old to read. Hopefully she will pick something out if it to help with her selfesteem. Thanks Stacy

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